quote:According to him, he knows this lady and he knows the family... Yes he knows you but just like any other person in this board. He met you in 2003 on BNW, obviously, when the internet became affordable to you. He did not know you when you shared a one bedroom upper flat with the mother of your children, or rather he knew you but you never allowed him access to the flat because you were ashamed he lived in a house with a garden but you and your wifey shared a one bedroom flat. Remember, when he says he was coming to visit “oh I’m on my way to …, don’t worry I will call on my way back. Later on “Babe, should we visit them on Sunday, you know our house is not very good…”
At the start of the legal process, I decided I wasn't going to take any blackmail. I am reading the report of the immigration commissioner as well as your affidavits to her which actually show the total number of days (not weeks or months) you spent at Ilford prior to April 2003. Even then you spent most of your post April 2003 time in my hospital accommodation - a six bedroom house I was occupying alone for quite a long while. Please, I have seen so much in the last 18months that covering up for a blackmailer is not one of the things I have in my 'to-do diary'. So, you imagine that all of met at BNW in 2003? You clearly show your ability to lie from limited knowledge. Anyone who knows the history of Nigerians and message boards will trace back another five years at least before 2003.
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CSE Is this the same lady you flew here to california to deliver your child few years ago. When I couldn't meet you with Ambrose. Wow my Brother little did i know that you are the one been dragged to the Mudd. well brother do whatever you can for your kids and hopefully with DNA, State of California will give you, your paternity right back to you.
CSE I know you to be a gentle man, and i have known you now for near 8 years all way from Egbeomo.com
Thank you for the support. If you knew the extend of the woman's criminality you would be shocked. I have told CSE to recover some of the money this lady stole from him by selling the story to Nollywood. The funny thing is that for a criminal, this lady is so stupid. She has an IQ bothering on non existent. Can you remember when she claimed not to know the family I was talking about?
Now as to the flat in Ilford, it was bought by CSE as a student, and it was used simply as a weekend base. I remember the first day I visited was when she tried to defraud him of £10,000 by sending her friend to his bank with a forged French passport.
In other to avoid eviction, she even got herself declared insane. I am not surprise about her later actions after finding out about her family dynamics. Ask anyone who lives in Onitsha which man from who kicked out his wife and married his wifes sister and you will know more about the family.
For people to get a better perspective on the stupidity of Blessings post, it would be good for her to reveal if she has ever worked or earned any money in her entire life.
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quote:Originally posted by Biafra: CSE Is this the same lady you flew here to california to deliver your child few years ago. When I couldn't meet you with Ambrose. Wow my Brother little did i know that you are the one been dragged to the Mudd. well brother do whatever you can for your kids and hopefully with DNA, State of California will give you, your paternity right back to you.
CSE I know you to be a gentle man, and i have known you now for near 8 years all way from Egbeomo.com
Absolutely. Imagine my shock and utter devastation when I found out what she did with my child's birth certificate.
I actually met Ambrose during that visit to California.
I have done the DNA. I am asking the English court to do a fact finding - just to summarise the case. After that I will be in California. It could have been easier if you cooperated but if I do it the long way, I will not rule out instigating criminal proceedings just to get her to bear some responsibility for her recklessness. Can you truly imagine this woman as an advocate foe an abused woman or child?
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Are saying some this things to make a point or to maligne somebody. Many of us who migrated here from Africa lived in what you are calling one bedroom flat. Myself personally my wife spend 3 years in Nigeria after our wedding, when INS finally gave her visa and she arrived in US, I was living in a one bedroom Apartment, she got pregnant and I wanted to move to a larger apartment at least 2 or 3 Bedroom. However my wife said no, that is better for us to stay where we are and save money, so that when ever we move we will be moving into my our house. Today we live in one of the most desired area of southern California. The first 1 and half years my wife didn't work. we had my first and second child in that old apartment. Why am I telling you all this? I am saying this to you because saying things like you did above to score cheap point or belittling somebody doesn't make you look good. many of us grew up in thatch houses in Nigeria, Today many of those same people today lives in mansions. So for you to maligning this man because he lived in a one bedroom flat doesn't impress anybody.
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I have since ended up in a five bedroom, three storey house and don't you see how happy I have become? I can't wait to move back into a thatched apartment as long as I can have some peace.
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I can't help having the point of view that I do, for like CSE I have been the victim of domestic violence fraud by my ex many years ago when all a woman had to do was cry abuse to the officer and off you go to jail. In the end she was convicted of assualt but it was actually aggravated assault(the prosecutors didn't want to prosecute her). I didn't want to have to do it either but she and her new man left me no choice. So you see that this "cry wolf, cry abuse" thing is really rampant in developed countries. We need to protect against that as well as against bona fide domestic violence cases. This has been my whole point and I think the revelations of CSE have made that abundantly clear. One thing however I can say for you Waypoint is that you are perhaps the most successful thread-starter at BNW. Also part of your argument here is basically sound. I think "balanced" is the word that best describes what is lacking.
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It was the interminable waiting that was really bad ...but not quite as bad as waiting for you to make an intelligent post. How could I ever have confused you with the erudite Christian/Muslim Daud?! No offense intended Ol' buddy Ol' pal!
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Let’s recapitulate what I have said and where I stand in these issues. I know for a start that I have not posted any links to this matter, allow my emotions supersede the existential facts or spoke based on direct experience. My take is rather more of education,professional training, observation and research. I will not deny the facts that some of my friends , male that is has been accused of done wrong and later vindicated. But it is ridiculous for any person on this issue, minus Greg to ridicule me, force me to admit that Blessing is a danger diabolic just to be fair on this issue or criticize my take without first distinguishing himself or acknowledging the fact that we are predominantly culprits in this matter. For the fact that anyone of us has directly or indirectly experienced domestic violence on the face value does not change the fact that this violence is primarily committed by men. Greg, I feel for you to go through an excruciating and exhaustive criminal justice system and to be labeled a wife beater. My sympathy is only genuine but my maxim remains unchanged. But any idea by me, implied or inferred that domestic violence is not committed by women is a pure fiction. [Watch the series Snapped on Oxygen about women who kill]. Domestic violence is always committed by person. But the majority of the perps remain men. Domestic violence is not only about killing and hurting children. There must be a pattern for degradation, words that hurts and ridicule. I have noticed a persistent failure by some of us to distinguish the target and the perps; while neglecting the behavioral pattern that has been expressive, actionable and chronic unutterable rage and frustration that is predominantly men.
Fact: There has been reported cases of “Husband killers from Nigeria” over Wife Killers” who are predominantly men killing their young wives to rage against their weakness. Facts: There are no men shelters in this country or any country for domestic violence. There are thousands of women shelters in this country with no disclosed location. The address of most Domestic violence shelters remains a secret. Go figure why? It is a maxim for me in this issue based on facts to admit that more men are certifiably and violently prone against women and some women are not exactly immune to use violence when provoked.
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For the record, I was never prosecuted on anything because the whole thing was a fiction. As a matter of fact the policeman who arrested me apologized later after I proved before a magistrate that my ex was guilty of assault and that she had in fact perpetrated a fraud upon the court in engineering the arrest of an innocent person for purposes of an impending divorce proceeding. This sort of thing happens a lot but most times goes un-reported because men are the usual victims. In my case, I was so offended that I made an example of her for all to see. It's on record I assure you.
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For the record, I was never prosecuted on anything because the whole thing was a fiction. As a matter of fact the policeman who arrested me apologized later after I proved before a magistrate that my ex was guilty of assault and that she had in fact perpetrated a fraud upon the court in engineering the arrest of an innocent person for purposes of an impending divorce proceeding. This sort of thing happens a lot but most times goes un-reported because men are the usual victims. In my case, I was so offended that I made an example of her for all to see. It's on record I assure you.
I have a similar, albeit a more protracted process that have spanned the civil and criminal courts.
The female making allegation- euphemism for a gold digger making bogus allegations, will almost always go to court first. It backfired badly for the woman in my case. She made an application to the court to ask me to leave my home and she was kicked out instead.
The court ordered a full hearing into the allegations and the judgement was a damning indictment of her greed, falsehood and aggressive behaviour. Now, the often repeated allegation is that I have instituted many court cases in order to make life miserable for her when all I have done is defend myself from the career damaging allegations she was making.
Like Greg, I do not want any pity. I just think that a fraud and a liar should not be given the pulpit to advertise themselves in the name of fighting for women's rights.
It is also important that other men realise that the law is not made for women contrary to the grandstanding of these false and misleading advocates for want of what else to call an empty barrel.
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For the record, I was never prosecuted on anything because the whole thing was a fiction. As a matter of fact the policeman who arrested me apologized later after I proved before a magistrate that my ex was guilty of assault and that she had in fact perpetrated a fraud upon the court in engineering the arrest of an innocent person for purposes of an impending divorce proceeding. This sort of thing happens a lot but most times goes un-reported because men are the usual victims. In my case, I was so offended that I made an example of her for all to see. It's on record I assure you.
I have a similar, albeit a more protracted process that have spanned the civil and criminal courts.
The female making allegation- euphemism for a gold digger making bogus allegations, will almost always go to court first. It backfired badly for the woman in my case. She made an application to the court to ask me to leave my home and she was kicked out instead.
The court ordered a full hearing into the allegations and the judgement was a damning indictment of her greed, falsehood and aggressive behaviour. Now, the often repeated allegation is that I have instituted many court cases in order to make life miserable for her when all I have done is defend myself from the career damaging allegations she was making.
Like Greg, I do not want any pity. I just think that a fraud and a liar should not be given the pulpit to advertise themselves in the name of fighting for women's rights.
It is also important that other men realise that the law is not made for women contrary to the grandstanding of these false and misleading advocates for want of what else to call an empty barrel.
Oh I need to be added to the pity message being sent out??? Is that what you are asking for? Please stop lying because you only expose yourself more by telling lies. Of course you know you are violent and you are a real perpetrator, and the court confirmed it.
Answer these questions-
When was the first report of domestic incident recorded by the police on your file, who made that call, your neighbour???
How many times did you have to travel to Nigeria to promise your in-laws you will never lay a hand on her??? Left for you to answer…
How many times were you arrested by the police??? Left for you to answer…
How many charges have you got on your record??? Left for you to answer…
How many prosecutions did you get??? Left for you to answer…
How many of your real friends did she contact to assist with the problem? Left for you to answer…
Why did you accept to see the pastor when she was granted a non molestation order??? Left for you to answer…
How many times did the children’s ex-child minder come to the house to pick her and the children very late at night because of the violence??? Left for you to answer…
Did you beat a pregnant woman and a nursing mother???
How many times did the woman you have named ‘the 70 year old mortgage scammer’ attend your household to plead with you to change your behaviour??? Left for you to answer…
Why did you take your BNW friend to her daughter’s (who is the ex-childminder) house to influence her mother to change her statement in court??? Left for you to answer…
Why where you refused custody of the children on three occasions and were warned never to make that application again by the court? Because you are violent. Am I right?
Did you negotiate to vacate the two days final hearing, after the finding of fact, because you know the facts were yet to be revealed? Am I right?
The violence was pronounced in spite of you having had a counsel, a solicitor and her assistant including your bundle full of lies. She had nothing and no representative; you were still found guilty, although they did not believe all the allegations but the court put forward a two days final hearing to do more findings. Am I right?
Did you really get her evicted from the house because you were found innocent by the court? NO!!!
She was granted an occupation order at the house after you threatened to make her homeless should she not end the non-molestation order. In the Occupation order you were only allowed to enter the house climb upstairs and have access to the last floor.
While at the house you kept pleading with her to stop the proceedings but she insisted you get help. Your behaviour got worse and the police advised you to leave the house, respecting the fact the case is already in court, otherwise they would get an injunction. You left but you were allowed to visit, you were visiting but your only access was to the last floor. What did you do, you visited pleading with her to continue living with you. Do you remember this, "baby, how can I live without you, I really love you. I tell people its all about the kids but I sincerely love you". She insisted she has had enough and that you must get assistance.
You then started to change the story; she has become a perpetrator and you the victim. You would visit the house with friends to try to establish she calls the police whenever she sees you, and you mistakenly invited her prime witness, the childminder. What did she tell you, “oh, I know what you are trying to evidence, no, I know her she is not violent. I will not come with you. Go and sort it out with her and take care of your children”. You promised to give her money to take care of the children and she said NO! She advised you to give that to their mother. She was actually answering you in her presence, remember on the phone.
This continued until the court ordered you no longer visit the property as long as she and the children remain in that house, and until she left you never set your foot into the house, am I correct? You had no contact with the children until you were given supervised contact in a contact centre.
False Allegations-
As you rightly said, they know you did it but you have to provide the evidence. You also said, the best form of defence is attack. Yes, all the things you have been saying about her are the opposite. You and only you know it. Going to the Social Services to allege she abuses her children. What came out of it, they now know you as an angry man who cannot get over the loss. You went to the police to allege fraud and destruction to property. What came out of it, yes she was arrested, interviewed but not charged. The police later apologised, arrested you and put it in your record. What you did at BNW is evidence, going round to people lying against her to destroy her. You can never achieve that.
The Eviction Order-
You did sort out a settlement, promising to pay £700/ month towards the cost of alternative accommodation if only the proceeding would end and you are allowed to sell the house to assist in caring for the children’s private education, she agreed. The agreement was endorsed by the court. Then she was unable to vacate the house at the agreed date, you went to court to enforce the order.
How many times did you have to cry in court saying you were unable to continue to pay the mortgage because of credit crunch and the house was being repossessed? How many applications did you make? Yes the court believed you have made a fair offer bearing in mind you would also pay Child Maintenance, granted you an eviction order and asked her to move to a cheaper house where you would contribute £700 every month towards the cost.
She left the house and what did you do? You failed to comply with court orders, you did not pay the £700 and you have also made a false declaration of income to CSA. They are on your back now, aren’t they??? More so, you moved back into the house and started claiming you were asked to go back to the house by the court because the court found out she lied against you. Liar!
Yes the case is back to court and you have been warned, to declare every earning and to file a valuation of the property and serve her. You have done this but you have again failed to declare everything and you have been ordered to do this within 21 days, is that true??? The court recognising your lies, deception and serious neglect of your children. Well, the court commended her for hard work, taking good care of the children. Solely paying for the children's private education and remember what the judge say to you. “If you don’t stop talking now, I will walk you out of this court. I expected a professional to behave better; I am really disgusted by your behaviour”.
I hate to do this but you are a real liar, you did not have to lie against her for self exaltation. No one cares about how you live or what is happening in your family, stop exposing yourself and try to have some internal peace, real peace. MOVE ON! You do not have to prove to people you are influential, no one cares. Please put some respect to your name. PEACE!!!
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I chose to speak openly because not speaking allowed you to keep lying and keeping a straight face. My Challenge: Anyone who has taken part in the debate can get a copy of the finding of fact judgement sent to their email. Just send me a PM. When you have finished reading, then ask questions of the two. Why should I lie about my income when you know I am a poor man. Your bravado will not help you. Everyone already found you out. Wait until people read court documents and conclude that this PHD scammer is just that a scammer. Why should I give 700 ounds when you waited to be evicted, then stole my property and sleeping on my stolen bed with your pauper Mr. Gorgeous?
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You went to court, asked for the house owner to be evicted. Even though, hearing your application ex-parte the judge refused. The judge gave a temporary order to allow you to stay in a room until a hearing in three weeks. At the hearing, you were given until February 15 to clear off. I agreed to contribute 700 towards your accommodation until you finish social work course in September 2008. You subsequently refused to move and more court action followed culminating in your eviction on May 21 when you wrecked my house and stole everything. Consequently, I told you to go straight to hell to find who will give you 700 pounds or failing that go to court if you can.
You so daft that you don't even understand on what principles residency are granted. I have contact which you are doing your best to disrupt and will soon find yourself in hot water. You have sought to use the contact to create scenes which I will not let you. You keep talking of real people as if there is anyone real or virtual who has not given up on you as a mad, lying cheat who had the nerve to claim you were married to two men.
It seems we went to two different courts where one person - you hides the fact that your weekend - care assistant job pays you anything. Where the judge tells you that unless you go and 77.50 pounds for lying about the documents, your request to even have my finances examined will never be heard again?
Are you not really ashamed that in spite of getting quite a bit in child tax credit, child benefit, child support payment and whatever else you earn - working, you want me to supplement your income. You want me to continue paying for private education in England when my colleagues don't?
I thought you have a Mr. Gorgeous yet you stole all my outdated furniture and technology. Yet you want me to buy a house for my kids so you and Mr. Gorgeous vcan have shelter at their expense. You are so hopeless you believe that the lucky woman that has taken over will tolerate that nonsense. I pity you because you rely on me agreeing to pay even if the civil court say I should give you a dime to supplement my children's entitlement.
ABOUT MOVING ON: Once I had you declared a liar by the court, evicted you from my house and in final stages of getting mr Didier off my children birth certificates, movinn was all but complete.
On the other hand, you keep swearing how I earn like the a cabinet minister and why I shopuld give some to you. How are you going to move on if you keep looking back at what you said you had in my house? How are you going to move on when you expect me to support you with 50,000pounds per annum? I pity you because I don't earn that much! hahahahah And of course, the twenty something years old temptress oxford educated madam won't even tolerate the sight of an evicted scammer-in-chief!
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You must be quite gutted indeed. You applied for divorce and the court reminded you you need a marriage certificate. Unfortunately for you the marriage certificate you found was for your marriage to a man who don't earn quite as much! That night we partied at the RITZ!
quote: How many times did the woman you have named ‘the 70 year old mortgage scammer’ attend your household to plead with you to change your behaviour??? Left for you to answer…
Why did you take your BNW friend to her daughter’s (who is the ex-childminder) house to influence her mother to change her statement in court??? Left for you to answer…
In a recorded conversation, the 70-year-old housing benefit cheat panicked and sensing she was in trouble spilled the bean that you had asked her to lie. The lie was so obvious.
You father was being buried. Both of us travelled. She looked after the babies for which I paid her. You told her to say that she was not paid and that I did not come to see the children while you were away.
Travel tickets - which I bought showed both of us were away. She obviously collected money and her daughter had earned thousands from me over the years looking after my kids. It didn't add up. Her daughter sensed trouble too and decided to invite me with a friend - who does not even write on BNW. In her front room, the woman's daughter calls her mother - reassured her that there will not be problems if she 'corrected' her statement which she did to some extent. Birds of the same feather, your good friend called you on the phone and put you on a speaker phone which you did not realise. She tells you to leave her mother out of this. You seemed shocked that court papers were made public. In the hearing, the judge took the view that neither you nor the seventy something years old fraudster was credible and subsequently treated your allegation as such.
You are quite clearly the most ungrateful person I have seen. A man accompanied you to bury your father and the evidence you could produce of not caring for his children was that he did not see them while he was away with you in Africa. Every morning I say - thank God and good riddance to this Dobash rubbish!
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quote: Did you negotiate to vacate the two days final hearing, after the finding of fact, because you know the facts were yet to be revealed? Am I right?
How could I negotiate to vacate a final hearing? The finding of fact judgement is a two day hearing, completed and judgement delivered. Your only avenue for appeal is to the court of appeal. A final contact hearing was vacated because you said you had enough and will make the children available.
You were jumping up and down about going to the court of appeal but in fact, the judgement will be one year old on 29 April 2009 and your appeal is still as evasive as your father's money that will buy my mansion ten times!
Do you know when to quit lying? I should have known when even an elderly french man you were looking after allegedly sexually harassed you. Scum bag!
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quote: Yes the case is back to court and you have been warned, to declare every earning and to file a valuation of the property and serve her. You have done this but you have again failed to declare everything and you have been ordered to do this within 21 days, is that true??? The court recognising your lies, deception and serious neglect of your children. Well, the court commended her for hard work, taking good care of the children. Solely paying for the children's private education and remember what the judge say to you. “If you don’t stop talking now, I will walk you out of this court. I expected a professional to behave better; I am really disgusted by your behaviour”.
I have money coming scam!
This is what you kept telling the corner shop nigerian solicitors in North London that you expect the court to order me to pay you some money. Stupidly they believed. Invariably, they left disappointed. Now that's what you tell your abject gorgeous so that he can hang around believing big money is coming. I was quite impressed that my credit card bill is quite close to a 100,000 pounds. I suppose I have to pay them first before I add to your child support. Dream on!
It never stops to amaze me that this pathological liar who was telling everyone how her father was paying for everything actually believes that I have money somewhere. It must be quite traumatic waking up and hoping that a 'nasty man' like me will give you money.
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quote:Originally posted by blessing: Oh I need to be added to the pity message being sent out??? Is that what you are asking for? Please stop lying because you only expose yourself more by telling lies. Of course you know you are violent and you are a real perpetrator, and the court confirmed it.
Answer these questions-
When was the first report of domestic incident recorded by the police on your file, who made that call, your neighbour???
"Does this include the allegation you made in court that the neighbours where complaining that he was disturbing the peace which you withdrew when he produced an audio recording of his entire stay in the house? Liar. I guess that is how your parents brought you up.
How many times did you have to travel to Nigeria to promise your in-laws you will never lay a hand on her??? Left for you to answer…
How many times were you arrested by the police??? Left for you to answer… Do you mwan the 12 times you called the police for which the police records show "charged refused" for which you a supposed PhD law interpreted in court as "they charged him but he refused"?
How many charges have you got on your record??? Left for you to answer…
How many prosecutions did you get??? Left for you to answer… It is on record that the only prosecutions have been of yourself and your Agu Nwanyi of a sister
How many of your real friends did she contact to
The one who offered to help you move out and you lied to that the court had ruled that you could stay there till the children were 21?
Why did you accept to see the pastor when she was granted a non molestation order??? Left for you to answer… Following your false accusations, the courts asked he live the house until the case was settled, The case has now been settled and You were branded a liar and a fraud by the courts and then evicted fromm the house by the court.
How many times did the children’s ex-child minder come to the house to pick her and the children very late at night because of the violence??? Left for you to answer…
I will reserve coments for the time being.
Did you beat a pregnant woman and a nursing mother???
Including the time you claimed you were thrown down the window when there was none big enough for your fat self to go through? When you claimed he threw a coke can at you which turned to a coke bottle when questioned by the second police officer, when you claimed he poured a hot cup of coffee on your hair but your white T shirt was not stained?
How many times did the woman you have named ‘the 70 year old mortgage scammer’ attend your household to plead with you to change your behaviour??? Left for you to answer…
Why did you take your BNW friend to her daughter’s (who is the ex-childminder) house to influence her mother to change her statement in court??? Left for you to answer…
"It was funny hearing your voice saying "but he was not supposed to see it" Fool you think that when you swear an affidavit, it is kept from the person you were accusing. PhD law my foot.
Why where you refused custody of the children on three occasions and were warned never to make that application again by the court? Because you are violent. Am I right?
Liar! You were the one who refused contact despite the court having ruled. Remember not bringing them for contact because they had a party at macdonalds?. Last one was because he refused to sign your stupid agreement to stop writing about his experioence on BNW
Did you negotiate to vacate the two days final hearing, after the finding of fact, because you know the facts were yet to be revealed? Am I right?
The violence was pronounced in spite of you having had a counsel, a solicitor and her assistant including your bundle full of lies. She had nothing and no representative; you were still found guilty, although they did not believe all the allegations but the court put forward a two days final hearing to do more findings. Am I right?
Did you really get her evicted from the house because you were found innocent by the court? NO!!!
She was granted an occupation order at the house after you threatened to make her homeless should she not end the non-molestation order. In the Occupation order you were only allowed to enter the house climb upstairs and have access to the last floor.
While at the house you kept pleading with her to stop the proceedings but she insisted you get help. Your behaviour got worse and the police advised you to leave the house, respecting the fact the case is already in court, otherwise they would get an injunction. You left but you were allowed to visit, you were visiting but your only access was to the last floor. What did you do, you visited pleading with her to continue living with you. Do you remember this, "baby, how can I live without you, I really love you. I tell people its all about the kids but I sincerely love you". She insisted she has had enough and that you must get assistance.
You then started to change the story; she has become a perpetrator and you the victim. You would visit the house with friends to try to establish she calls the police whenever she sees you, and you mistakenly invited her prime witness, the childminder. What did she tell you, “oh, I know what you are trying to evidence, no, I know her she is not violent. I will not come with you. Go and sort it out with her and take care of your children”. You promised to give her money to take care of the children and she said NO! She advised you to give that to their mother. She was actually answering you in her presence, remember on the phone.
This continued until the court ordered you no longer visit the property as long as she and the children remain in that house, and until she left you never set your foot into the house, am I correct? You had no contact with the children until you were given supervised contact in a contact centre.
False Allegations-
As you rightly said, they know you did it but you have to provide the evidence. You also said, the best form of defence is attack. Yes, all the things you have been saying about her are the opposite. You and only you know it. Going to the Social Services to allege she abuses her children. What came out of it, they now know you as an angry man who cannot get over the loss. You went to the police to allege fraud and destruction to property. What came out of it, yes she was arrested, interviewed but not charged. The police later apologised, arrested you and put it in your record. What you did at BNW is evidence, going round to people lying against her to destroy her. You can never achieve that.
The Eviction Order-
You did sort out a settlement, promising to pay £700/ month towards the cost of alternative accommodation if only the proceeding would end and you are allowed to sell the house to assist in caring for the children’s private education, she agreed. The agreement was endorsed by the court. Then she was unable to vacate the house at the agreed date, you went to court to enforce the order.
How many times did you have to cry in court saying you were unable to continue to pay the mortgage because of credit crunch and the house was being repossessed? How many applications did you make? Yes the court believed you have made a fair offer bearing in mind you would also pay Child Maintenance, granted you an eviction order and asked her to move to a cheaper house where you would contribute £700 every month towards the cost.
She left the house and what did you do? You failed to comply with court orders, you did not pay the £700 and you have also made a false declaration of income to CSA. They are on your back now, aren’t they??? More so, you moved back into the house and started claiming you were asked to go back to the house by the court because the court found out she lied against you. Liar!
Yes the case is back to court and you have been warned, to declare every earning and to file a valuation of the property and serve her. You have done this but you have again failed to declare everything and you have been ordered to do this within 21 days, is that true??? The court recognising your lies, deception and serious neglect of your children. Well, the court commended her for hard work, taking good care of the children. Solely paying for the children's private education and remember what the judge say to you. “If you don’t stop talking now, I will walk you out of this court. I expected a professional to behave better; I am really disgusted by your behaviour”.
I hate to do this but you are a real liar, you did not have to lie against her for self exaltation. No one cares about how you live or what is happening in your family, stop exposing yourself and try to have some internal peace, real peace. MOVE ON! You do not have to prove to people you are influential, no one cares. Please put some respect to your name. PEACE!!!
I don't think I will bother to deal with all the lies you are manufacturing, but I will like to ask you a few questions.
How many times did youn fraudlently obtain money from him? When confronted what did you do? was it not to call the police claiming domestic violence?
How many times did you forge or steal his cheque books? When confronted what did you do? was it not to call the police claiming domestic violence?
Did you ever send e-mails blackmailing him asking for 5 million Naira, The e-mails Yahoo traced back to you? When confronted what did you do? Was it not to call the police making another claim of domestic violence?
Since you were supposedly being abused, why did you reject the offer from police to go to a refuge or his offer of trial separation? Was your answer not "over your dead body?" Was you true intention not to get him out of the house and use the house as a nursery?
Is it too much of a coincidence that the same thing happened to the man with whom your sister had been staying with his family in Thamesmead? Same accusations of domestic violence, and ultimately being kicked out of his house?
Why is it that you put your husband's name on the electoral roll in CSE's house while making sure his name was not registered in the house?
Why is it that almost a year after you were kicked out of the house, you are still trying to perpetuate fraud either using that address or referring to yourself as Mrs S?
Was your true intention not to get rid of him and set up a nursery school with your friends in his house?
BTW: Did you not claim a few posts ago that you did not know who I was talking about? Pathological Liar! You are so uninteligent to accuse a practising doctor of having a criminal record when we know it is next to impossible to practice as a doctor in the UK if one has a criminal record.
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This thing is getting more sordid by day, The continues maligning the Character of CSE is become worrisome simple because of divorce. Come on divorce doesn't have to be this sordid.
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What happened to Ohafia "Fathead" Udumeze, MeBiafran and Ukaobasi? When are they gonna come in and save this situation from erupting to gun shots? This shitty stuff is really getting scary.
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At the very least scores of potential converts to false activism will now see the true colour of those who purport to lecture to them.
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TB I agree with you completely this thing need to be rescued otherwise somebody is gonna get hurt.
Brother CSE please continue to be a gentleman, if you weren't a cool headed man, this thing could bommrang into OJ like incidence all over again. Some us who live here in southern California who lived through it years again, don't want to read about similar situation again.
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We should mediate not instigate their differences. I believe we are learned not to take sides on family squabbles before it mutates into something that we regret.--------> WAYPOINT 1BIAFRA
......now there is an accusation of child molestation and fraud, a typical open book of sex, lies and video tapes in divorce contention, especially when it involves children. This is not good and it got to stop. Your opinions in Domestic violence counts.
TB, particularly Biafra, I am surprised that you have decided to call for spontaneous order or mediation after you propelled this domestic disobedience and advocated a turbulent inquiry by forcing Blessing to admit her role and cheered both CSE and Wacko on the side. You cannot call for an order or reconciliation while you contemptuously apply coded messages for disruptive behavior by encouraging CSE to continue to be a gentleman and ignoring the impact from Blessing. Recognizing the strength of one and ignoring the other shows no investment or serious interest to resolve this matter. I will encourage you and TB to strictly minimize your role in this family matter, that includes your coded messages, apply the principles of correctness that embodies the call for spontaneous mediation, perhaps, they will listen to you.
Hail Biafra
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That's why people should have a real day job. It is tragic when a woman descends so low and having to rely on extortions and preying on the vulnerable to earn a living. The real victims of domestic violence don't ever get to profit from these shady self publicists and vulture organisations.
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Since you seem to be relating first-hand the events, pleadings and proceedings heretofore mentioned, why do you shroud yourself(from the grammatical perspective) in the third-person. Isn't it in fact yourself that is involved in these things you have spoken of? There is already one particular BNW forumite of third-person fame. Do you aspire you be the next? I think had you used "I" and "me" more often, your argument, even if it lacks merit, would have been better received, as such would have removed the notion of stealth which I much perceive in your postings.
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quote:Originally posted by Thompson Buraimoh: What happened to Ohafia "Fathead" Udumeze, MeBiafran and Ukaobasi?
TB,
I am very much alive and in my often quite moments wonders what happened to the Adewusi chap resident in big D.
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I'm glad you're still alive. Seriously, I thought something happened to you guys and everybody was getting worried. The Adewusi guy, I don't know but I heard somewhere he's going through a bitter divorce. You know it's the trend these days. How about you?
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This is not good! CSE, this is not good for your children, those cheering you up here are not your true friends; those who abuse your children's mother in the Internet pretending to be on your side should first tell us what goes on in their bedroom. you stood your ground and fought like a man! here you're ending up like woman. all these blah blah blah about the you woman whom you use to share secrets with will come back to hurt you. when your children as adults demands the answers from you, Wacko & co will not be there to protect you.Do not take bad advice from your so called friend, it's silly to sell your life story to those who seek your down fall. let bygone be it's name and move forward with your new life, you have every right of new life, you have it now, grow your thick skin and move forward; it's only men's man can do that and i will like to count you as one.
Blessing, stop posting those gibberish here, now you can see you're no angel! why did you do this to yourself; this is shame! with pending case in the law court you sneak in your ex hubby and father of your children to the court of public opinion, this is shame! how can you brag about how many times your ex husband asked for reconciliation! you sounded like bitter loser! this is not good for your children afterall.
Biafra, if you believe in GOD, apologise to both ex couple, you have no business to say what you said. Who knows, they, i mean they, the two may decide to come together again in this life time, If it happens; guess who will be thier worst enemy, it will be Wacko, his best friend today! we are in the world, the dynamism is in no doubt after all, they share the greatest gift of life.
Greg, i can't look into the heart but having interacted with you, i found you a gentle soul. give it up! do not let a bad experience cloud your better views. a bad experience teach a good man and not diminish him, good manners attract harsh treatment but truth is Superior! i learnt from you and also from our brother Ukaobasi, that truth is the hallmark of all learning. where you stand at this moment is not the side of truth.
Waypoint.. you're the man! my thump is up!
Lets call a spade a spade! this is not good for public eye! this is private and family matter, it's every where, your case is not isolated and will not be the last, it's part of who we are, human! this is not good, children are involved!
quote:Originally posted by Ikenga Iguedo: This is not good! CSE, this is not good for your children, those cheering you up here are not your true friends; those who abuse your children's mother in the Internet pretending to be on your side should first tell us what goes on in their bedroom. you stood your ground and fought like a man! here you're ending up like woman. all these blah blah blah about the you woman whom you use to share secrets with will come back to hurt you. when your children as adults demands the answers from you, Wacko & co will not be there to protect you.Do not take bad advice from your so called friend, it's silly to sell your life story to those who seek your down fall. let bygone be it's name and move forward with your new life, you have every right of new life, you have it now, grow your thick skin and move forward; it's only men's man can do that and i will like to count you as one.
Blessing, stop posting those gibberish here, now you can see you're no angel! why did you do this to yourself; this is shame! with pending case in the law court you sneak in your ex hubby and father of your children to the court of public opinion, this is shame! how can you brag about how many times your ex husband asked for reconciliation! you sounded like bitter loser! this is not good for your children afterall.
Biafra, if you believe in GOD, apologise to both ex couple, you have no business to say what you said. Who knows, they, i mean they, the two may decide to come together again in this life time, If it happens; guess who will be thier worst enemy, it will be Wacko, his best friend today! we are in the world, the dynamism is in no doubt after all, they share the greatest gift of life.
Greg, i can't look into the heart but having interacted with you, i found you a gentle soul. give it up! do not let a bad experience cloud your better views. a bad experience teach a good man and not diminish him, good manners attract harsh treatment but truth is Superior! i learnt from you and also from our brother Ukaobasi, that truth is the hallmark of all learning. where you stand at this moment is not the side of truth.
Waypoint.. you're the man! my thump is up!
Lets call a spade a spade! this is not good for public eye! this is private and family matter, it's every where, your case is not isolated and will not be the last, it's part of who we are, human! this is not good, children are involved!
Attack me, hate me or love me, i lend my voice.
Mazi,
I agree with your concern about the welfare children and how a break-up affects them, but the laws of the Western world have corrupted much of what should be between a man and his wife and children.
Some of these laws can be used to deprive a man of his property and his position in society if he does not defend himself. What will a man's children think of him if he has nothing to leave them after his death?... if his former wife and her new husband now have his property and have left him poor and socially crippled so that he cannot earn a good living. I tell you they will not think much of him.
You are also right in that these things are family matters and should be private, but in the West break-ups are done publicly in the courts and if a man is to defend himself and his property, he must do so publicly. When this is the manner of divorce, many times there is horrible treachery and betrayal. Then the one who lay in your busom and with whom you shared secrets becomes a snake ready to pierce your heart, and no man will put a snake in his busom if he is wise. Also Mazi it is customary in the West to crush the head of a snake we see crossing the road.
Each man must decide for himself what is the limit of his forgiveness of her that he once loved. I loved my wife many years after I left but I had passed my limit with her. She bit me one time too many. I regret making it public but truth is like the sun...one day it will come out from behind the clouds.
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